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About This Book...
At one time or another, as women, we're all faced with circumstances over which we believe we have no control.
For instance, imagine you are in the Run for the Roses. You're mounted on a world-renowned thoroughbred. All wagers are on your horse, and he's sure to be a winner. While you're waiting at the starting gate, secure in the saddle, you glance at the other horses. Just as you thought, there's no competition.
The race is about to begin. Your adrenaline soars. You grab the reins and position yourself in a winning style. Suddenly you realize your feet are not dangling in the stirrups? They're dragging on the ground! You look down, and you can hardly believe your eyes. Your horse is dead!
What control do you have over this situation? What would you do?
A) Hold your position and hope noone notices.
B) Drag the horse across the finish line.
C) Give it mouth-to-mouth resuscitation.
D) Realize your horse is dead and dismount.
Did you find you wanted to choose more than one answer? So do all the women you're about to meet in my book. Like them, we've all tried to (A), cling to a dead belief or behavior and hope our friends and family will overlook it; (B), drag a lifeless idea around with us long after it has served its purpose; and (C), tried to breathe life into a situation that's too stiff to respond and may even be starting to smell!
The dead horses you'll meet in this book are not our lovers, our financial woes, our health problems, our upbringing, or any of the things we blame for our troubles. A dead horse is a mindset, a habit of thought that causes us to act against our own best interests. A dead horse is a mindset we need to let go of, so we can grow and prosper.
Each one of these brave women's stories will empower you to recognize the places you feel stuck in your own life and to dismount your own dead horses to choose answer D!
What happens then? Like the ladies you will meet in this book, you trade in that old, dead horse for a strong, energetic thoroughbred that will carry you to the life you deserve.
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With the advice in Lynn McDonald¹s new book, How to Use Your Shopping Skills to Get a Man, finding the perfect man should be easier than selecting the perfect melon at the super market or the right blush at the make-up counter.
About This Book...
One day last summer, late in the afternoon after speaking at a convention, I began a long drive home. On my way home I stopped at the local market to pick up some coffee and milk for the next morning. I came out of the store with milk, coffee and so much more! I was carrying three bags full of stuff like ice cream, cookies, potato chips, onion dip, sugar-coated cereal, candy bars and my favorite, angel food cake, amongst other items that had caught my eye as I waited in the checkout lane.
After walking to my car and unloading my bags onto the front passenger seat, I put the key in the ignition with one hand while rummaging with my other hand to find and open the angel food cake wrapper. When I found it, I tore off a hunk of the sweet, spongy cake and stuffed it into my mouth. As I was chewing, I glanced at the bags next to me on the front seat wondering, “Why did I buy all that junk?” That was the moment this book was conceived, right then and there, the very second I answered my own question: “I bought all this junk because I went shopping on an empty stomach, hungry, and without a shopping list.
”Think about it. It’s not any different from looking for a man when you are hungry for a relationship, starving for affection and desperate for companionship. If you go out without a shopping list, you’re going to take home a lot more than coffee and milk. You got it…junk!
With that thought I smiled, looked up, and saw a woman coming out of the boutique next to the market carrying more shopping bags in her arms than I thought any one person could handle. “That’s it!” said that little voice in my head. “It’s all about shopping! Getting the perfect man is exactly like shopping!” I pulled out a pen and started to write right in the parking lot. A plan emerged that I wanted to share with women on how to convert their well-developed shopping skills into the means to find their perfect mate. And now you have it in your hands:
A step-by-step plan and a personal shopper—me!—to take you on a shopping trip like you’ve never taken before. A trip that includes cleaning out your emotional closet to make room for the perfect garment and writing a shopping list so you don’t take home any junk. Why, we will even go window-shopping. (Remember, for now just look! Don’t touch!)
I will show you where to go shopping for the man who perfectly fits your list, and I will be with you at the checkout lane for your final purchase.What are you waiting for? Go ahead—buy the book and let’s get started. I’ll be waiting for you in Chapter One! Right after I get a cup ofcoffee. Do you want one?
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Readers' comments...
Dear Lynn:
I have a complaint...Why was your book so short and why don't you have more books for me to read??!!! It consumed me to the point that I now have an insatiable appetite for more. I have passed the book on to my 16 year old daughter in hopes of her choosing to dismount the dead horse she's been dragging around. We both look forward to riding our thoroughbreds across the finish line. Thank you for your gift.
Susan Schoengold (future thoroughbred rider)
Hi Lynn! Read your book and loved it! It made me laugh and it brought tears to my eyes. Every woman should read this! This one should be an Oprah book club read! HOOFS UP on this one!
Adeline
Has anyone sent her a copy? If not, I'll send her one.
Lynn,
I can't tell you how excited I am about the book. I've read it several times and keep finding new points that help me identify my dead horses! I talk about your book with all of my friends to encourage them to banish their own "dead horses". Your book has helped to motivate a lot of people by supporting the idea of acting on life decisions that make positive changes.
Good Luck!
Michaelle in Michigan
Before I even got a chance to read my copy of Ladies...Dismount, my sister Phyllis, a therapist to both adolescent girls and adult women, had "inhaled" it in a day and declared it useful and usable with a good segment of her patient population. I knew what she meant when it was my turn. Lynn McDonald has used humor, insight, and effective story-telling skills to bring us true tales of women who have had the wisdom, perspective and courage to change the course of their lives. She allows her readers to listen carefully and hear what she has heard in their stories. Her ingenious equine metaphor brings a commonality to the experiences she describes, giving us, her readers, a new way to think about, face and overcome daunting challenges. I learned a lot from this little book and thoroughly enjoyed the ride!
Charmian Sperling, Ed.D.
Provost Emeritus, Middlesex Community College, Bedford and Lowell, MA
Dear Lynn,
After reading your book, I realized that I must work through the grief of losing my husband and "Remount" a horse called "My Future." Thank you for giving me the insight to see how important it is that I move forward.
Love, Carol
Cleveland OH
I found it extremely inspiring and very intuitive. It is a "keeper" to be reread when things look black. I guess the trick is to know when the horse is dead.
Thanks again,
Sandy
Longboat Key, FL
Your book has opened my eyes to many situations in my life. It has given new meaning to many areas of a heretofore unchartered, unnamed course. I have discovered I need not continue on that path; rather I shall take charge of my life and rid it of any dead horses. I cannot express my gratitude to you; you have shown me the way. You have made me aware and as a result it is up to me entirely to apply to my life what I have learned through your book. It seems that even with this knowledge I must identify areas that I have simply accepted, and include them as my dead horses. One would imagine areas would stand out; alas, all of these do not readily come to the fore. I shall make every effort to recognize these in my search to get all hoofs up!
Marley
SanDiego...
Greetings from Pat in Ontario!
Gave 2 copies of your book to friends as gifts...they love it!!! I'll want to pick up more copies as Christmas gifts! So meaningful to so many people in many different ways! You've touched so many of us with your wonderful stories.....thank you!
Lynn, GREAT BOOK!! Darn you know I have to go buy more for a whole bunch of people! ...I truly enjoyed it!
JANUARY
Well Lynn, you managed to get me into a situation at the YMCA with a couple of muscle jocks who thought it was pretty weird for me to be reading a "chick" book as I used the treadmill! (I had bought a copy to give to my sister for Christmas and decided I would give it a read before actually wrapping it and putting it aside for the Holidays.)
When I paraphrased your story about procrastination and taking friendships for granted, they agreed with me. That "dead horse" isn't one you ladies have a patent on!
Thanks for putting so clearly into words what we all really know but just don't actively think about until we've bounced in a saddle that's going nowhere for far too long.
Tom Minicucci, New Rochelle, N.Y.
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